So, another blog on GIRLS. Just because I am one and I know a lot about them, obviously.
Why are girls dependent on a man to make them happy? I don't understand why us ladies feel like we "need a man". I know that if Jorge & I never worked, or if something tragic happened to him, I'd be able to raise Avianna all by myself. I would be able to pay for everything myself, and deal with raising her ALONE. I do NOT need a man in my life for ANYTHING -literally anything. Ladies depend on a mans love for company, and to not be alone. They depend on the men to make money and to be the man of the house. I guess some ladies were raised to be dependent. Every role model they know are dependent on men. But it's 2012, divorce happens like everyday. What if the dude leaves your ass? Good luck, you're moving back in with your parents and you're 30 with 4 kids.
Also why wont you leave a dude when he cheats on you? You're staying with him cause you love him right? Obviously he doesn't love you cause he wouldn't cheat if he was happy with you. Once again, being dependent on his love. And how could you stay with someone when they blame you for the dumbest things that you know aren't true? Because you "can't live without him"? Girl, get strong. Be independent. If I went somewhere with Jorge and he said I was "Flirting" with his friends just cause I was talking to him I would laugh, he must have some insecurities and trust issues. This has never happened to us, just an example. And having your child present with the father accusing you of flirting with his friends, you know your not doing it, but apologize anyways because you "can't live without him"....girl, no bueno. That's teaching your child to let people walk all over you, and she has no role model.
It's a new year. Become a strong woman. Don't be dependent on a man.
Monday, January 2, 2012
Friday, December 16, 2011
Abortion.
Okay there is something that makes me pretty ticked. It's when girls are using abortion for B.C. I thought this way even before I had Avianna or even got pregnant. Girls are going out there, having unprotected sex, getting pregnant and going to PPH for an abortion. It's a human life. I deff. don't believe in that method of "Birth control" and I don't agree with abortion unless it's under a cercumstance .
1.You have been rapped.
2.You've been molested by a family member.
3.You are forced to have an abortion.
Yes ladies, you can be forced. I was taking this medicine for my acne called Acutane. It was a very powerful drug only perscribed by a Dr. and every month I had to take a blood test because YOU CANNOT GET PREGNANT ON THIS MEDICINE. It will damage your body and your kid WILL come out mentally ill. So I had to sign a waver form that if I had gotten pregnant, I had to have an abortion.
And as for girls ON birth control and getting pregnant and having abortions, why do you keep having sex if you see your BC isn't working for you?
1.You have been rapped.
2.You've been molested by a family member.
3.You are forced to have an abortion.
Yes ladies, you can be forced. I was taking this medicine for my acne called Acutane. It was a very powerful drug only perscribed by a Dr. and every month I had to take a blood test because YOU CANNOT GET PREGNANT ON THIS MEDICINE. It will damage your body and your kid WILL come out mentally ill. So I had to sign a waver form that if I had gotten pregnant, I had to have an abortion.
And as for girls ON birth control and getting pregnant and having abortions, why do you keep having sex if you see your BC isn't working for you?
Friday, December 9, 2011
Pregnancy & Avianna
So I was asked to write about being a teen mom and how the journey has been. As much as I HATE to air some of my dirty laundry, it's not glamorous so I'm going to say the truth. I refrain from using the word "hard" because being a "teen mom" isn't hard, it's just different.
When I got pregnant I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL. I was on the pill but Planned Parent Hood gave me expired pills, so ladies check that expiration date if you don't want a baby! People ask me all the time "how did your mom react", honestly, she cried. It was hard for her but my sister got pregnant young too so it wasn't too bad. Before I got pregnant me and Jorge had talked and we both knew what the outcome would be if we had sex. When I told him I was excited, because there was no turning back . I DON'T BELIEVE IN ABORTION unless the person has been molested by a family member or rapped. So I took this pregnancy as something positive. I was still in high school, going to VHS and it was hard because I had morning sickness SO bad. It was all day every day till the end of my pregnancy - Literally. I ended up falling behind 5 credits b/c I had missed so much school thinking I had the flu. I transferred to Country High and went on ISP trough them. I ended up graduating early in March with a 4.0 and walking in June. Welll, that's what everyone pretty much knows, now for the not so easy stuff.
the pregnancy took a toll on mine & Jorges relationship. He stopped being around, started hanging out with his friends more and I was alone. I hated it, I thought it was going to be like this forever. All I wanted was my baby's father at night to cuddle with since my hormones were going crazy. We fought a lot and we were just going through a really hard time. The relationship within it self was hard. We broke up cause I hate thinking "I'll get help tonight" or "He'll be home tonight" and be disappointed . We got back together AFTER Avianna was born. While I was in labor we were not together. It really sucked. He is a wonderful father to Avianna, but things are still hard. I'm a very clean person and he never cleans his mess. I do everything in the house (our laundry, clean our room, organize, do everything for Avianna as well.) and all I ask is him to do his dishes, and clean up his mess. I bet if I walk over to his side of the bed right now his mess that I asked him to clean up 10x will still be there.....hold on let me check.......oh yes it is! 3 pairs of shoes, like common dude how hard is it to take them off and set them in the closet!, a pair of pants a shirt and a jacket -___- Also he NEVER picks up his dirty clothes out of the bathroom. The kid has made my bed mabie 4 times . Also, he just started changing avianna's clothes. He thought he was going to brake her or something? It used to make me so mad. He changed diapers for awhile, the first month or so I didn't have to change one. the baths, the clothes, putting her to sleep is all on me now. I'm trying to get him to help more but he's mentally 5 in this situation so it's hard.
With Avianna, she's such a good baby. I hardly ever had to wake up every two hours to feed her. only a few times. She only cries if she's hungry or needs a diaper change or if she just wants her momma. It's different because going to the store I used to be able to run in run out, now it takes a half an hour and the shortest amt of time, and if i have to go shopping shoppin that can take up to a whole day with her. She keeps amazing me every day with the new things she does .
Through it all, I wouldn't change anything . I love my daughter so much as well as her dad. I know i said all bad stuff about Jorge, but he's amazing. He's such a great father and he treats me really well. He spoils me when he can and our relationship just keeps getting better.
When I got pregnant I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL. I was on the pill but Planned Parent Hood gave me expired pills, so ladies check that expiration date if you don't want a baby! People ask me all the time "how did your mom react", honestly, she cried. It was hard for her but my sister got pregnant young too so it wasn't too bad. Before I got pregnant me and Jorge had talked and we both knew what the outcome would be if we had sex. When I told him I was excited, because there was no turning back . I DON'T BELIEVE IN ABORTION unless the person has been molested by a family member or rapped. So I took this pregnancy as something positive. I was still in high school, going to VHS and it was hard because I had morning sickness SO bad. It was all day every day till the end of my pregnancy - Literally. I ended up falling behind 5 credits b/c I had missed so much school thinking I had the flu. I transferred to Country High and went on ISP trough them. I ended up graduating early in March with a 4.0 and walking in June. Welll, that's what everyone pretty much knows, now for the not so easy stuff.
the pregnancy took a toll on mine & Jorges relationship. He stopped being around, started hanging out with his friends more and I was alone. I hated it, I thought it was going to be like this forever. All I wanted was my baby's father at night to cuddle with since my hormones were going crazy. We fought a lot and we were just going through a really hard time. The relationship within it self was hard. We broke up cause I hate thinking "I'll get help tonight" or "He'll be home tonight" and be disappointed . We got back together AFTER Avianna was born. While I was in labor we were not together. It really sucked. He is a wonderful father to Avianna, but things are still hard. I'm a very clean person and he never cleans his mess. I do everything in the house (our laundry, clean our room, organize, do everything for Avianna as well.) and all I ask is him to do his dishes, and clean up his mess. I bet if I walk over to his side of the bed right now his mess that I asked him to clean up 10x will still be there.....hold on let me check.......oh yes it is! 3 pairs of shoes, like common dude how hard is it to take them off and set them in the closet!, a pair of pants a shirt and a jacket -___- Also he NEVER picks up his dirty clothes out of the bathroom. The kid has made my bed mabie 4 times . Also, he just started changing avianna's clothes. He thought he was going to brake her or something? It used to make me so mad. He changed diapers for awhile, the first month or so I didn't have to change one. the baths, the clothes, putting her to sleep is all on me now. I'm trying to get him to help more but he's mentally 5 in this situation so it's hard.
With Avianna, she's such a good baby. I hardly ever had to wake up every two hours to feed her. only a few times. She only cries if she's hungry or needs a diaper change or if she just wants her momma. It's different because going to the store I used to be able to run in run out, now it takes a half an hour and the shortest amt of time, and if i have to go shopping shoppin that can take up to a whole day with her. She keeps amazing me every day with the new things she does .
Through it all, I wouldn't change anything . I love my daughter so much as well as her dad. I know i said all bad stuff about Jorge, but he's amazing. He's such a great father and he treats me really well. He spoils me when he can and our relationship just keeps getting better.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
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Something that really bothers me: When people try to tell me what's wrong and right because they know "what's best for me". I have my head on straight and I know wrong from right, i'm 18-Legally an adult. How could you dare tell me something is a sin so I can't do it, how dare you say i'm Unchristian because i'm not doing exactly what you want me to do? So what if I want another kid out of wed lock, I do want to be married just not right now. So what if I don't feel comfortable around your house so I won't come over.
You know what's a sin? Saying your HAPPY because someone had a misscarrage . How dare you say i'm unchristian cause of my wants and needs.
Also someone in the same family told an 17 year old, 7 months pregnant, "Your going to be alone for the rest of your life no one wants you" NEWS FLASH HOME GIRL: You have two kids, by two DIFFERENT baby daddies. You are with no one and you're 30 years old, who's going to be alone?
Also, more about the more kids out of wed lock thing: Yeah that's what I want. I don't want to be married until i'm out of College and have a career but I want more kids before then. Wouldn't mind a ring on my finger though.
Don't tell me i'm wrong, keep your opinions to yourself . I'm grown, I don't need you to lead the way for me. My mom can do that. Also I may be 18, but i am grown because i'm mentally a lot older. You would know that if you took the time to get to know me.
You know what's a sin? Saying your HAPPY because someone had a misscarrage . How dare you say i'm unchristian cause of my wants and needs.
Also someone in the same family told an 17 year old, 7 months pregnant, "Your going to be alone for the rest of your life no one wants you" NEWS FLASH HOME GIRL: You have two kids, by two DIFFERENT baby daddies. You are with no one and you're 30 years old, who's going to be alone?
Also, more about the more kids out of wed lock thing: Yeah that's what I want. I don't want to be married until i'm out of College and have a career but I want more kids before then. Wouldn't mind a ring on my finger though.
Don't tell me i'm wrong, keep your opinions to yourself . I'm grown, I don't need you to lead the way for me. My mom can do that. Also I may be 18, but i am grown because i'm mentally a lot older. You would know that if you took the time to get to know me.
Monday, December 5, 2011
Get your kind under control!
Okay so this came to me today when Avianna had just gotten put down to sleep and was woken up by some kids. We have thin walls, not the kids' falt. The problem was is these kids live at least 5 houses away from me, yet they are coming so close to my house they mind as well be in my moms front garden. When they get close they like have a spo t RIGHT IN FRONT OF AVIANNAS ROOM where is their "base" for tag. I don't have the balls to go and say "excuse me but can you stop playing in front of my house, my kids asleep." This deff. isn't the first time they have done this either! The mom is outside laughing at the kids, i'm like wth? Also as I've mentioned in a previous post we have four parking spots in front of my house. Well, I have my car parked there FINALLY. Those same kids' parents were cutting down a tree and so they had a ton of sticks. These kids were running in and out of the cars with the sticks hitting each other. I was watching them to make sure no one was hitting the cars, they came pretty close, and the mom is once again sitting there laughing. -___-
Another situation occured at Ross. I was in line to exchange something and some woman had a, I want to say, 3 year old and a 5 month old. At the time Avianna was almost 4 months. Her little girl came up to the stroller and touched Aviannas face almost slapping it! The mom just sat there. And i'm not a mean person so I don't know where the line is crossed when telling SOMEONE ELSES kid to back off.
Now this one doesn't have to do with kids, well actually it does because of lack of maturity and respect towards others: WHY DO YOU FEEL THE NEED TO COME INTO A TRAILOR PARK SLAPPIN'. Note: you're not bad ass. And It makes me so mad because this wanna be gang banger drives by 9, 10, 11 sometimes 1 in the morning slappin' his POS music and you can't hear it and the base sounds like ass. Like no respect bro or what? there have been so many times where I want to go outside and sit there till he comes so I can throw a red colored egg at him (Since you can clearly tell he's a "Northerner") and scream F U HAVE SOME RESPECT! Every time he comes in here slappin' he wakes up Avianna, and if not that he wakes me and Jorge up too!
Okay last one: In my park you're not allowed to have any "large" sized dogs, Pitts, rottweilers*, great danes, ect. Cause they can jump over the fences here. Well the same people who have the kids I was talking about have a rottweiler*. That dog barks day in and day out waking Avianna up if their kids don't get to her first. I wake up hearing the dog even if the T.v. or fan is on . Now dude, get control of your kid and damn dog!
So in close tonight not only do I say get your kids in line and also have some respect, but I'de like to ask for prayers for my friend Brittany and her boyfriend Brett. Baby Emoree (their baby) was born November 23rd. Brittany's due date was in December but due to a leak in her water she had to be enduced. On top of spending Thanksgiving in the hospital, the day Brittany was supposed to be realeased they got news that baby Emoree would not be comming home with them. Baby Emoree still isn't home and they want her home (who wouldn't want their baby home with them) So I ask you to pray for them. If you don't pray please wish or hope or whatever you may do to get baby Emoree healthy enough to come home. Thank you!
Another situation occured at Ross. I was in line to exchange something and some woman had a, I want to say, 3 year old and a 5 month old. At the time Avianna was almost 4 months. Her little girl came up to the stroller and touched Aviannas face almost slapping it! The mom just sat there. And i'm not a mean person so I don't know where the line is crossed when telling SOMEONE ELSES kid to back off.
Now this one doesn't have to do with kids, well actually it does because of lack of maturity and respect towards others: WHY DO YOU FEEL THE NEED TO COME INTO A TRAILOR PARK SLAPPIN'. Note: you're not bad ass. And It makes me so mad because this wanna be gang banger drives by 9, 10, 11 sometimes 1 in the morning slappin' his POS music and you can't hear it and the base sounds like ass. Like no respect bro or what? there have been so many times where I want to go outside and sit there till he comes so I can throw a red colored egg at him (Since you can clearly tell he's a "Northerner") and scream F U HAVE SOME RESPECT! Every time he comes in here slappin' he wakes up Avianna, and if not that he wakes me and Jorge up too!
Okay last one: In my park you're not allowed to have any "large" sized dogs, Pitts, rottweilers*, great danes, ect. Cause they can jump over the fences here. Well the same people who have the kids I was talking about have a rottweiler*. That dog barks day in and day out waking Avianna up if their kids don't get to her first. I wake up hearing the dog even if the T.v. or fan is on . Now dude, get control of your kid and damn dog!
So in close tonight not only do I say get your kids in line and also have some respect, but I'de like to ask for prayers for my friend Brittany and her boyfriend Brett. Baby Emoree (their baby) was born November 23rd. Brittany's due date was in December but due to a leak in her water she had to be enduced. On top of spending Thanksgiving in the hospital, the day Brittany was supposed to be realeased they got news that baby Emoree would not be comming home with them. Baby Emoree still isn't home and they want her home (who wouldn't want their baby home with them) So I ask you to pray for them. If you don't pray please wish or hope or whatever you may do to get baby Emoree healthy enough to come home. Thank you!
Friday, December 2, 2011
Vacaville, CA.
So someone asked me to write about stuck up girls in Vacaville, but i'm going to write about something else too.
1.STUCK UP GIRLS: Like common' it's just Vacaville, not NYC. No need to be a Biotch. We're in a little town, you're not going to get anywhere in life being stuck up. Be classy. I read a status on Angelas Facebook yesterday and she said "Maybe you should eat makeup so you can try and to be pretty on the inside" So true! I saw a girl in the mall the other day, she was deff. a MILF. Buttttt then she gave me the rudest look and when I was walking she hit me in the back with her stroller. I have NO idea who this chick is but it made her ugly. She was no longer a MILF because her attitude made her ugly. I know a lot of girls in Vacaville think you're better than everyone else, but you're not. There are tons of different people in Vacaville : Poor, wealthy, rich, tweaks, alcoholics, teenage moms, older moms, JC grads, UC grads but no matter what color or how much money you have YOU ARE NOT BETTER THAN OTHERS. I may not have a lot of money but I have a big heart, that doesn't meant I'm better than the next.
2.GANG BANGERS: IT'S VACAVILLE. Where the heck are you going to go in vacaville with that kind of lifestyle?! I just don't get people. They'd rather kill for someone they haven't known but a year or whatever then to have their freedom, like really guys?! "Let's go bang on someone cause they have blue/red converse on." I just don't get why you would risk your life hurting others....
1.STUCK UP GIRLS: Like common' it's just Vacaville, not NYC. No need to be a Biotch. We're in a little town, you're not going to get anywhere in life being stuck up. Be classy. I read a status on Angelas Facebook yesterday and she said "Maybe you should eat makeup so you can try and to be pretty on the inside" So true! I saw a girl in the mall the other day, she was deff. a MILF. Buttttt then she gave me the rudest look and when I was walking she hit me in the back with her stroller. I have NO idea who this chick is but it made her ugly. She was no longer a MILF because her attitude made her ugly. I know a lot of girls in Vacaville think you're better than everyone else, but you're not. There are tons of different people in Vacaville : Poor, wealthy, rich, tweaks, alcoholics, teenage moms, older moms, JC grads, UC grads but no matter what color or how much money you have YOU ARE NOT BETTER THAN OTHERS. I may not have a lot of money but I have a big heart, that doesn't meant I'm better than the next.
2.GANG BANGERS: IT'S VACAVILLE. Where the heck are you going to go in vacaville with that kind of lifestyle?! I just don't get people. They'd rather kill for someone they haven't known but a year or whatever then to have their freedom, like really guys?! "Let's go bang on someone cause they have blue/red converse on." I just don't get why you would risk your life hurting others....
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
"Oh yeah let's hit girls."
Okay, so by request by an anonymous reader i'm going to write about men hitting women . Or guys hitting girls. People always say it's not always the guys which is true but common' get real. When men/boys hit females they hurt them. But when a girl hits a guy, unless she's a big girl, it probably doesn't hurts. (Well, I think it wouldn't.) It's defiantly over all the most unacceptable for a dude to hit a female when a baby is present. What influences men to hit females? If you think about it, females are defiantly stronger than dudes mentally. Females can take emotional hits (Don't get me wrong, it hurts and some people i'm sure tend to explode) But when boys/men who have been brought up to hit females get an "Emotional hit" they get violent. & It is really how they were brought up. If anyone fights it's because either they saw it when they were a kid, or they were brought up to think it's okay. And I don't understand how someone can raise their kid like that. Does no one think about how the other person may feel when you're smashing their face in ? I've been there , getting hit not the hitter, and it's not too nice. I'm not saying i've been hit by a man/boy but i've taken some hits from girls.
So anyways, the point is HIT A FEMALE GO TO JAIL. I hope no female has to go through this, and if they do I hope they have the power to look towards god or whatever you believe and get out of that relationship. it may be hard but once a hitter always a hitter unless god changes them.
So anyways, the point is HIT A FEMALE GO TO JAIL. I hope no female has to go through this, and if they do I hope they have the power to look towards god or whatever you believe and get out of that relationship. it may be hard but once a hitter always a hitter unless god changes them.
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